Personality goes a long way

I was talking with my housemate the other day about personality and self confidence. How things in life strength it or weaken one’s self image and security.

In general aspects, I like to chill, relax and let myself go with the flow as if i was a log in a river stream. I think i can adapt myself to almost any other personality or situation, reinvent myself and change as much as i need to without the fear of loosing my own perspective. I tend to think that the core of my personality remains the same even if i change some ways of doing things or some thoughts. As Bruce Lee once said “Be water my friend”.

There are times when I like to go with the flow and follow someone else because its easier, but i also like to feel in control of whatever is happening. Sounds contradictory, but in a way, its not.  Im not just a follower, and i like to see myself as a leader who chooses to follow, which is totally different. Its the freedom of choice. When i choose to follow someone, im doing it because i want to. I choose to do it as long as i want to. If i ever get tired or bored, i can always choose not to or choose to lead.

Whenever i feel i am following someone for too long, i feel my personality melts with the other one´s and this can be good or bad depending on the context and the situation. These days, I feel im fading away too much into the people around me and my personality does no longer exists, i cannot keep on choosing and my core is starting to loose its shape. I dont want to become just a follower without any leading power or will, and i need to feel in control of my own will, my own decissions and my life.

There is a saying in spanish: “When in Rome, do as the romans do”. Meaning that when someone gets to a new place, one should adapt to the new conditions and enviroment and not the other way around. I try to do this, but always keeping a balance between how i am supposed to do things and how i want to do them. Its quite easy in general as i said before, but sometimes i like to go back to my own way of doing things to strength my own believes and self confidence.

I dont like people who just follow a leader without any question or doubt. Its always good to keep one’s way of thinking and not be caught up in the mob. Think and challenge every moment, and if you’re not confortable with it, instead of complaining or moaning, make a move and make things happen the way you want to. Be active, take your chances or shut up and keep on walking.

Whatever you choose, it’s your choice and no-one else’s.